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Thursday, January 30, 2014

Because it sounded like fun

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Clearly, I've been neglecting my blog for a LONG time.  I've probably lost most of my readers.  There was a time when I had constant blog posts going in my head that just needed to be typed out.  I've been in a writing slump, so that just hasn't happened.

I've also been busy.  I have a dear friend who I met through the blogging world who is now a real-life friend.  She started an amazing website, and I've been helping edit the posts on it.  It's incredibly rewarding, and it's an amazing place to go learn and heal through a TON of life's challenges.  Go check it out!  Band Back Together

So, two days ago, I discovered that a new real-life friend has a terribly funny blog, and I've been reading it obsessively every spare minute I have.  As I think I've mentioned before, I can't just start reading a blog from when I discover it.  I have to go to the beginning and read the whole thing.  So I've been doing it with this blog as well.  I just came across a post that sounded like a fun idea.  I've posted part of the story on here before, but I like some of the added details from this idea.

This one is for you, Glamazon!

How did you and your true love meet?
Surfer Pirate and I met on Myspace.  This was back in 2008 when it was okay to say that.  I had been meeting guys through a church related dating site, but wasn't finding The One.  (I actually thought I knew the guy I was supposed to marry, but neither of us was ready for that yet.)  Since everyone I was meeting on the other site lived a long ways away from me, and the one guy in town I was dating was always really busy, I wanted to expand my horizons.  I didn't want to sit home on the weekends, so I started looking elsewhere for some Right Now guys.  When Surfer Pirate sent me a friend request, I was definitely leery.  His profile page was very dark, covered in skulls and scary stuff with a thrash metal playlist.  Not exactly my type.  Plus, I had been burned previously by a random friend request.  So I told this unusual guy that he would need to talk me into it.  He could have decided I wasn't worth the time, but he didn't.  We started sending messages back and forth, and before I knew it, I was laughing myself silly!  Friend Request Accepted!  He was much too funny to not have in my life.  We had our first date a few weeks later, and the rest is history!

What is your favorite physical feature about your beloved? 
Surfer Pirate has beautiful eyes.  I can get lost in them.  He also has a really nice rear end.  It's kind of a toss-up between the two.

What is your favorite personality feature about your lover?
Same thing that won me over in the first place - his sense of humor.  We've had a pretty challenging life together, and his humor is one of the main things that's gotten us through it all.  He's hysterical.  Trust me.

When did you have your first kiss?
Our first kiss.  Now THAT is a fun story.  A little over a month before Surfer Pirate and I had our first date, I had gone out with another guy I had met on Myspace.  He wasn't exactly honest with me about what was going on in his life, and when I found out the truth, I had sent him a text asking why he hadn't just been honest.  He ignored the question, and I moved on with my life.  Not really a big deal.  But then, a month later, without warning, he texted me back - right as Surfer Pirate had arrived at my house.  I apologized to Surfer Pirate, explaining that I had some "unfinished business" to deal with.  He sat down at my kitchen table while I texted back and forth for a few minutes with this other guy.  The last text I got from the guy said "You just need to get over it and move on."  Annoyed that he hadn't figured out that I had from the fact that he hadn't heard from me in a month, I texted back "I already did."  Surfer Pirate and I had talked on the phone previously about kissing.  He'd told me he was a really good kisser.  So, when I put my phone down on the counter after that last text, Surfer Pirate's kissing abilities were all I could think about.  I took a deep breath, turned to face him, said "Okay, I need to know."  Before he knew what had hit him, I crossed the room to where he was sitting, bent down, and kissed him!  He was completely startled by it, but he proved that he was telling me the truth earlier.  He's an excellent kisser!

What do they do that gets on your last nerve?
Being a housewife, I do at least 90% of the cooking.  I am very possessive of my kitchen.  But sometimes, Surfer Pirate likes to experiment in the kitchen.  Sometimes, it's wonderful, sometimes it is much more his tastes than mine.  But he ALWAYS leaves me a big mess to clean up.  Pans and dishes and seasonings and cooking tools EVERYWHERE.  The stove will be covered in spilled food from his over-zealous stirring.  He knows it drives me crazy, and I know that I'll probably never see him clean it up.

When did you know they were 'the one'?
For him, it was really simple.  He knew as soon as I walked down my front stairs and across my front lawn to meet him that I was The One.  I took much longer to convince.  Like I said before, I thought I knew who I was supposed to marry.  I was just waiting for both of us to feel like the time was right.  Surfer Pirate and I were very different from each other.  While I knew he was an amazing person, he just wasn't what I was looking for.  As time passed, I fell in love with him.  I didn't want to acknowledge it to myself because I still didn't think it was a forever thing.  But then something significant happened.  My sister, who had passed away when he and I had only been together for a couple months, started appearing to him in spirit.  She seemed to be watching out for him.  It hit me, "Why would my sister be worried about some random guy in my life?  There has to be more than just a short-term relationship here."  So I allowed myself to feel how much I loved him.  He had talked about wanting to marry me, but I told him I couldn't say yes until I'd prayed about it.  He was patient while I waited for the Lord to answer me.  The answer was yes, of course.  I was just the last one to figure that out.   :)

What sets them apart from other guys/girls you had dated in the past?
He's honest.  Not to say every guy I dated was a complete liar, but the vast majority of them were.  (One of my very best friends is actually an ex-boyfriend, and I always know I can trust him.)  But there is a level of honesty that Surfer Pirate and I have that I've never had with anyone.  We trust each other completely and know that we can always rely on each other's loyalty.

So there you go.  There's more of our love story.  I don't know what I would do without my sweet, funny, handsome man!


Joan said...

I think your mom was the last to know he was the right guy for you. I didn't figure it out until the day before the wedding, and even then I threatened him with bodily harm if he ever hurt you.
Now I love him as if he were my own kid.

MTGrace said...

I did think of that when I wrote that comment - I wasn't QUITE the last to know. But I was far behind a whole lot of other people. :)